I'm not going to break up with her because of her religion, but if we can't come to some kind of understanding about what we'd do with kids After reading every page of that CES letter I am fully aware this religion is a complete fabrication. It has worked and my children are very protective of their father. If she can't put you before her religion then you need to walk away. But God works in mysterious ways. TwoXChromosomes subscribe unsubscribe 11, readers 6, users here now Welcome to TwoXChromosomes, a subreddit for both serious and silly content, and intended for women's perspectives. You'll take out the trash, coordinate all the home repairs, pay all the bills, do all the yard work and generally work your ass off until you're emotionally and physically drained. Since I interpreted remotely via video, I got most of the routine cases: I can interpret those kinds of check ups in my sleep. Response to your edit: Do NOT bring up or mention anything that could be considered "anti Mormon.
There's a ton of crazy in what we were taught all our lives. Much better to marry in the faith if possible. When you mix cultural groups you increase the difficulty. Order flowers and arrange to have a friend or family member in the area place the flowers for them there. If you do believe it fully, are you not really going to want him to make the conversion ultimately.
You've made good points about not bringing up the CES letter or anything that could be called "anti-mormon. And as many posters stated, it is something that needs to be seriously discussed with your potential partner. She asked me the other night how it's possible for me to be such a good person when I don't believe in god. Up to this point, she has just assumed that all atheists are innately evil people. Thanks for letting us know. Do what feels right. I wouldn't just give up, but be wary. I can second this, as a lifelong utahn this is why I simply have a "no mormons" policy for dating.
I would go ahead and make boundaries with the conversation about kids and church, if that is your preference. Over the years, it would have felt increasingly burdensome to accommodate practices that seemed to me like superstition. I wish I could let go of our love as easily as he has, but I just can't. And that fairly constant theme has some deep implications your girlfriend will have to face. Like you I grew up with and taught the standard LDS beliefs about temple marriage, celestial kingdom, etc. Do you want a home that is focused on the church with all of the blessings there of or a home that is devoid of the blessings of the priesthood, Sundays without your husband at your side at church with your children celebrating in the gospel.