Help answer questions Learn more. My boyfriend and I are both in medical school and it is so difficult to manage a relationship while surviving the class load. It can burn, and it can burn you hardcore. He suffers from cybersexual addiction and feels as though he can have and woo every woman he wants in this forum. So I understand how it's easy to believe nonsense when you're brainwashed from birth, and how it can be comforting to believe your life is somehow very important in the grand scale of the universe, and how you don't have to be afraid of death because you'll go on to a better place where you'll live happily ever after for eternity.
All these are reasons to have some serious discussions. I am trying to help him stay at the church nth work, I think if I really love him like I always tell him I should let him chose and love him the way he is. Try to find out his schedule in detail. This happened to me, and it took me forever to get out of the cult. He hasn't proposed and instead of saving for a ring he is going to use the money to travel to go to his friend's wedding. Make an honest effort, and see if you reach the walk-away point. I think you need to figure out if you are willing to stay in a relationship with a man who's so busy, because trust me, it's not going to change anytime soon.
If you aren't sealed together, say good-bye for eternity. But now, we embrace our spiritual differences. Marriage is simply not an option to me there. I agree with what you and so many of the other replies have said: Listen with an open heart and curiosity. Ask him if he's not seeing you to not commit.
Thanks for letting us know. Why would you behave any different now. I deal better with inattention when he is home better than him as well. As a man who married a non-Mormon woman, my story has a slightly different view point, but it comes down to essentially the same principles. Hi, I'm from South Africa.
