I don't know why the system allows this type of treatment Not only do the residents feel like they "should" be giving every single bit of their energy, intellect, passion, soul to their residency programs, but they are told by their program directors, attendings and everyone else around them that they "must". Mormon theology is pretty clear: But Mormon theology is also rich with opportunities for second chances. I don't see anywhere in your post where there is a complete commitment. My husband is an amazing human being and an international cardiologist. Mormon theology is pretty clear: But Mormon theology is also rich with opportunities for second chances.
If you can love them unconditionally with how they are now, then I say go for it. How long did you date him and put up with that. We are best friends, and you will always have time for your best friend. My husband is a surgical oncologist. I feel unwanted most of the time but I know he tries to make time. Many men have begun leaving the Church in their early twenties as the mission has become more important. I know people should not get married if they can't accept each other as they are.
She's a shell of her former self and it breaks by heart to this day. Mormon girls are the best, and you are pretty lucky. The first key question to as is: If the answer is yes then the relationship sounds like it's doomed. Trying to maintain a long-distance relationship with someone at home or attempting to date someone you meet while on mission are both distractions. It seems she'll expect you to become Mormon. If she can't put you before her religion then you need to walk away. The scenario where she refused to watch a possibly 'anti' documentary and wanted to watch church-sanctioned material sounds like a red flag. While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. He was also a poor communicator and felt he didn't need to voice certain things, like 'I love you'.
Can they keep a job and or clean up after themselves. I have learned this painfully with my child growing up in the LDS community. These garments will not be fun for dating, if you know what I mean. I met my ex when he was a 2nd year resident and married him when he completed his oncology fellowship. I do not contact my gf every day unless they are online. I would show her this recent post for example: Her family will also be thinking about this and will talk to you about it when you spend time with them. I know people should not get married if they can't accept each other as they are.