That desire that they be someone other than who they were when they married you is toxic to a relationship. He knows that is a possibility. My parents, siblings and grandparents are all active members; as am I. I can understand his desire to spend time together to reconnect, but right now it really isn't there. And once you are done with those, ask about social issues and where she stands. If they believe their religion, they will ultimately cause you pain and disappointment. Now that my boyfriend and I are beginning to talk about a future together, though, I realize that I need to consider this question of marrying outside of the church very carefully. You are a good person and she can see that.
Stop trying to make up for all the little things you miss with big short-term things. I tried to date Mormon women, honestly. And so, I always have to think about my son when I have to travel or have other work commitments. His single doctor friends have so much more time and money to spend on lavish overseas holidays and recreational activities, while every spare moment the husband has to spend at home, helping with the children and all the responsibilities that entails. But what I discovered surprised me. Edited 1 time s. She got engaged 3 months later. I agree we shouldn't continue if we can't accept each other as we are. I have only been dating my boyfriend for just over 3 months,and he has just started his 3rd year in med school. Breaking up with someone solely because of religion is something people condemn alot on this sub when its a Mormon breaking it off with a non Mormon, but if floats both ways.
The system has broken him down and rebuilt him as someone, I fear, I won't be able to respect or feel connected to. You should both sit down and have a serious conversation about what you want and what she wants and if you can both deal with the compromise. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable. There are over promises in the Bible. If you shift his way, be prepared for the social costs of inactivityвplus, if you really believe the doctrine, a crisis of faith. It's the 1 issue in our relationship. I was going to be having leftovers of everything; time, energy, etc. I would suggest having a list of chores that need to be done, and anyone can check them off.
Do not expect anything long term. I too wish I had researched more in depth the other doc's wives blogs out there - I would have come up with a much more clever blog title. If it seems one is unable to find a spouse within the church, which commandment do you keep. Log in or sign up in seconds. If I were you, I would sever the relationship and find someone else.