I have been a doctor's wife for 1 year now and we've been together for 7 years. Most of us were suckled on that teat too. And no I would not pressure them to convert but as a Latter-day Saint I would pray for them to convert as I do for many people I know and love. And as an outsider it will be obvious to you what's going on, but here's an awesome breakdown from a couple that flipped from "we go to church every week - we will write a Mormon blog" to resigning over the new policy banning children of gays all over the NY Times this month and something that is upsetting many staunch church members a few days ago. The reality, however, has been far from it, as the small number of wives we do have in the program seem to be busy raising their kids or not really interested in developing these relationships. I've started dating this girl a few months ago, but it's only now that it dawned on me how hard it is to date with her crazy work schedule. He completely flipped the switch. Because what are Mormons about. I would advise you to try to be as understanding as you can of her point of view, because having you world view shattered is very difficult and can take a long time to recover from. You guys are looking into this wayyyyyyy too much.
Their perspective gives you an idea of how important your role as wife and mother is to the success of the family of a doctor's wife. I don't think I'm eligible to advice, but I would say be prepared to be independent and make lots of friends. It sucks but ultimately what Mormonism does to people is it makes them value adherence to church more than their relationships with people. It is very difficult being a Doctors wife. If you can genuinely deconvert her then cool. I feel like now more than ever, I am expected to just not have an opinion about anything or even a say in how we spend our time together.
Which even the kind ones are. Who knows, but I think it was especially hard for the moms of young men. If you decide to stay. Actually, Mormon families are shrinking, just like those outside the Church, but they will always be larger than families outside Mormondom. If she can't or won't consider that the church is a lie, you need to move on because this relationship can't go anywhere. No nagging, no emotional neediness, etc. Then be clear you will never convert. Please wait a few minutes and refresh this page. He totally blew me off and said "blah blah blah" and it was so early in our relationship that I was taken aback and didn't push the issue then and there. I knew that when I met him.
Honestly, you are probably the only person who she has ever known to outwardly label themselves an atheist. I've already approached him like a million times to ask why he has been distant with me but now I'm realising it's his work load but he doesn't want to admit it's a lot for him. But he told me that he needs a wife who could take care of him, kids and house. However, I did not expect my role in marriage to end up what it has become. So you stay calm, stay pleasant, and try not to let it eat you alive. That my heavenly father hates my decision to marry my husband.